Assam has witnessed prolonged conflict situation in most of the parts of the state since last several decades. The armed struggle of a number of insurgent groups, the counter insurgency operations launched by security forces as well as series of ethnic clashes have made the entire state a conflict zone and in attempting to understand the identity politics and resurgence of ethnicity based movements and armed insurgencies in North East India in the last several decades the use of gender perspective is essential though it has been rarely applied. As feminist historian Gerder Lerner insists, women are central to history, not peripheral as they are made out to be. According to her the system of patriarchy, the male domination over women and also males, originated with the establishment of the earliest states and ever since then the state has been the main instrument for institutionalizing gender and caste/ class based structures of exploitation and domination. This paper is an attempt to explore gender relations, which is a totally unacknowledged one in the evolution of politics of Assam in the recent decades.